We all have personal triggers or hot buttons.
One of my personal triggers is when someone tells me I have done something wrong. I don't know why I react to this, but I always do.
Most of the time I am able to 'catch' my reaction before it shows. I am truly grateful for this ability. I hear the accusation. I feel it in my gut. I recognize this initial response as my warning sign that I have been triggered and I stop, take a deep breath and shake it off.
This ability saves me much embarrassment. Often when I am triggered, it happens when someone with good intentions expresses him or her self poorly. Once I realize this I know I don't need to take it personally. I am okay and all is safe.
I usually forget to manage my triggers when I am vulnerable. I am usually vulnerable when I am over tired, not feeling well or in a new situation. This vulnerability is not a bad thing, but it really pays to take care of myself so it happens less often or less intensely.
What happens to you when you are vulnerable? Do you notice it is more difficult to manage behaviors coming from your emotions?
Share your thoughts. I would love to hear from you.
Make it a great day!
Linda
http://www.reachresources.net/
Thursday, January 24, 2008
Tuesday, January 22, 2008
Yes-ness
I am offering a new group coaching program - Abundant Solutions. I see abundant solutions in most situations. It really helps to have an attitude of 'yes-ness'. Tony Robbins calls this a 'Can-do Attitude'. I have always been a big fan of the word yes. Yes is symbolic of moving forward, making things happen, taking a risk, trying it on...you get the idea.
Saying yes doesn't necessarily mean I or anyone else will get just what was wanted or expected. Without the yes though, you can be sure not much will happen.
What will you do to take on a 'YES ATTITUDE' today?
Go out and make it a great day!
Linda
Saying yes doesn't necessarily mean I or anyone else will get just what was wanted or expected. Without the yes though, you can be sure not much will happen.
What will you do to take on a 'YES ATTITUDE' today?
Go out and make it a great day!
Linda
Monday, January 21, 2008
Dreaming of Possibilities
I just came home from my Toastmaster's meeting. I have been in TM's for about 18 months and I love it. I look forward to hearing the speeches and to giving my own. My core values include creativity, learning and delight and I get to express and nuture these values in this forum.
Tonight, the table topics master asked us to talk about our dream vacation. I tried to think of what mine would be and nothing extraordinary came to mind. Then I realized that four years has passed since my last vacation. Wow! How did that happen? Four years!
I know why this has happened. Four years ago I started my business as a coach and consultant. With no built in structure for vacationing, it just slipped right by me. I have been having a lot of fun (something we look to get from vacations); I barter with massage therapists, reflexologists, personal trainers and the like (relaxing, invigorating...more vacation-like stuff); I take on big challenges and some risks (could that be an adventure vacation?).
These silly thoughts went swimming through my head as others talked about Hawaii, Japan and other exotic travel. I finally stepped up to speak about mini vacations I have enjoyed on the massage table once a month. I think I am pretty priviliged to be able to do this on a regular basis. There is more to this though. I realize I no longer fantasize about the future. I do have goals and plans, but they are fairly general in nature. I feel so grounded in present that I haven't taken the time to create a fantasy.
The great thing about the fantasy or dream is the hope it holds. It is that direction to head toward and it gives a sense of possibility. Possibility says it all. Anything is possible in our dreams. Being open to what is possible opens us to opportunity. The open space receives.
It is time for me to take the time to create new dreams. Life is not just about doing, doing, doing. I want to 'be' in openness and possibility. I want to dream up my new dream. My dream vacation, my dream sleep over with the grankids, my dream client, my dream speaking engagement, my dream life...
Balance reality with beautiful dreams.
Until next time, what dreams will you re-awaken? What new dreams will you create?
Linda
http://www.reachresources.net/
Tonight, the table topics master asked us to talk about our dream vacation. I tried to think of what mine would be and nothing extraordinary came to mind. Then I realized that four years has passed since my last vacation. Wow! How did that happen? Four years!
I know why this has happened. Four years ago I started my business as a coach and consultant. With no built in structure for vacationing, it just slipped right by me. I have been having a lot of fun (something we look to get from vacations); I barter with massage therapists, reflexologists, personal trainers and the like (relaxing, invigorating...more vacation-like stuff); I take on big challenges and some risks (could that be an adventure vacation?).
These silly thoughts went swimming through my head as others talked about Hawaii, Japan and other exotic travel. I finally stepped up to speak about mini vacations I have enjoyed on the massage table once a month. I think I am pretty priviliged to be able to do this on a regular basis. There is more to this though. I realize I no longer fantasize about the future. I do have goals and plans, but they are fairly general in nature. I feel so grounded in present that I haven't taken the time to create a fantasy.
The great thing about the fantasy or dream is the hope it holds. It is that direction to head toward and it gives a sense of possibility. Possibility says it all. Anything is possible in our dreams. Being open to what is possible opens us to opportunity. The open space receives.
It is time for me to take the time to create new dreams. Life is not just about doing, doing, doing. I want to 'be' in openness and possibility. I want to dream up my new dream. My dream vacation, my dream sleep over with the grankids, my dream client, my dream speaking engagement, my dream life...
Balance reality with beautiful dreams.
Until next time, what dreams will you re-awaken? What new dreams will you create?
Linda
http://www.reachresources.net/
Sunday, January 20, 2008
Attitude Adjustments
I had to miss sitting down and watching the Patriots win their 18th game today. I know it was a tough game though...freezing cold ouch-type weather. I missed the game to go to my part-time job as an occupational therapist in the rehab department of a nursing home. On the way in today, two staff members stood outside in the freezing sunshine while on break. We began to banter about how hot is was in the sun and wouldn't it be better if we were wearing our shorts and t-shirts afterall!
When something is tough to do (like playing football in sub-zero weather) or tiresome (like more ice and snow and another Sunday on the job) I notice the way I react AND how others react. I like it when we use humor (tongue in cheek, of course). It's just as easy to laugh as it is to frown. Feels better, too. One of my patients had a whole stream of family visiting today. She is a very popular grandma. Her situation is a bit scarey. We don't know what exactly is happening medically. So the family rallies round and pours on the humor. She gets all that fabulous TLC and sore cheeks by the end of the day. Laughter heals and this wise family knows it.
I also like to take on the Nike 'Just Do It' attitude. Nothing needs to be perfect or the way I want it to be in order for it to be done. It can be so much easier to just do it and do it with an attitude of resolve and care. Takes all the angst away and that is a GOOD thing.
This one applies to me as I work on eating better. Now here is some news you don't hear every day...apparently I am not eating enough calories...go figure! My silly body is packing away the fat in it's confusion that I am starving to death. Ha! Not happening. So, now I need to get at least 800 calaries in by 2 in the afternoon. Weird that this is difficult but I decided to just do it and pack up my 'lunch box' with all the healthy food my body needs to feel secure in its nutrition. I am starting to get used to it and will hopefully begin to shed some un-needed fat 'toot-sweet' :)
Just Doin' It.
What helps you to get through the tough and tiresome stuff of life? I would love to know.
Warmly,
Linda
http://www.reachlifecoach.com/
When something is tough to do (like playing football in sub-zero weather) or tiresome (like more ice and snow and another Sunday on the job) I notice the way I react AND how others react. I like it when we use humor (tongue in cheek, of course). It's just as easy to laugh as it is to frown. Feels better, too. One of my patients had a whole stream of family visiting today. She is a very popular grandma. Her situation is a bit scarey. We don't know what exactly is happening medically. So the family rallies round and pours on the humor. She gets all that fabulous TLC and sore cheeks by the end of the day. Laughter heals and this wise family knows it.
I also like to take on the Nike 'Just Do It' attitude. Nothing needs to be perfect or the way I want it to be in order for it to be done. It can be so much easier to just do it and do it with an attitude of resolve and care. Takes all the angst away and that is a GOOD thing.
This one applies to me as I work on eating better. Now here is some news you don't hear every day...apparently I am not eating enough calories...go figure! My silly body is packing away the fat in it's confusion that I am starving to death. Ha! Not happening. So, now I need to get at least 800 calaries in by 2 in the afternoon. Weird that this is difficult but I decided to just do it and pack up my 'lunch box' with all the healthy food my body needs to feel secure in its nutrition. I am starting to get used to it and will hopefully begin to shed some un-needed fat 'toot-sweet' :)
Just Doin' It.
What helps you to get through the tough and tiresome stuff of life? I would love to know.
Warmly,
Linda
http://www.reachlifecoach.com/
Saturday, January 19, 2008
Greetings from Coach Linda
Life can be a rollercoaster and that can be great fun or great stress. Sometimes it is both. I used to love riding the rollercoaster at Six Flaggs and then one day I didn't enjoy it anymore. Something shifted and I longed for a more steady ride. I have come to that place where certainty tastes as good as chocolate. I want to enjoy the freedom of steady income and a lighter, more flexible schedule. Have you come to this type of transition in your life? There are many types of transitions...what is the nature of yours?
The thing about transitions is that they can be intentional, which makes it easier to manage the change that comes with it or they can happen TO you without prelude. In this case, you might not even realize it until you are knee-deep in resistance or confusion. This is a very uncomfortable place to be and can cause tension at home and work.
You know you are in resistance or confusion when most of what you do feels 'hard'. Conversations, decisions, actions all feel heavy...a struggle.
Look for this in your life. See it and let it go or let it flow. Acceptance is the first step toward creating EASE. What will you let go of today?
Make it a great day!
Coach Linda
The thing about transitions is that they can be intentional, which makes it easier to manage the change that comes with it or they can happen TO you without prelude. In this case, you might not even realize it until you are knee-deep in resistance or confusion. This is a very uncomfortable place to be and can cause tension at home and work.
You know you are in resistance or confusion when most of what you do feels 'hard'. Conversations, decisions, actions all feel heavy...a struggle.
Look for this in your life. See it and let it go or let it flow. Acceptance is the first step toward creating EASE. What will you let go of today?
Make it a great day!
Coach Linda
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